My Way

Have you ever wondered about the true story behind your preferences? Our choices, both big and small, tell a profound story of who we are. Sometimes, that story is a gentle departure from the family norm, a simple preference that sets us apart. But for others, it's a defiant journey of reclaiming a voice that was lost, a freedom that had to be earned.

Reclaiming My Own Terms

I grew up and married into environments where my personal tastes were often dictated. There was little room for exploring what I truly liked, because so many of my choices—from the clothes I wore to the food I ate—were controlled. My preferences were never a matter of simple choice; they were a reflection of a life that had been pre-written for me. My inner compass was silenced, pointing only in the direction I was told to follow. I learned to keep my head down and accept the choices made for me, mistaking a lack of choice for personal preference.

The Discovery

It wasn't until I was much older, after finally stepping away from those controlling environments, that I began the courageous work of self-discovery. This wasn't a sudden change, but a deliberate and powerful process of trying new things—a new style of clothing, a new food. I had to learn to trust my own judgment again and listen to the quiet voice that had been muted for so long.

I still remember the profound joy of trying a new dish I'd always been told I wouldn't like and discovering it was delicious. The thrill of getting a haircut I had always secretly wanted and seeing a stranger in the mirror who looked more like me than I ever had before. The deep satisfaction of wearing an outfit that made me feel powerful and authentic, not just acceptable. Each of these small acts was a victory, a reclamation of a tiny piece of myself that had been lost.

The Joy of Unwavering Confidence

The true triumph of this journey is the unconditional appreciation for my own likes. It's the simple, pure pleasure of choosing something because I truly prefer it, not because it's the only option or what's expected. There is a deep, satisfying confidence that comes from no longer needing to apologize or justify a personal choice. This confidence isn't about being defiant; it's about finally being at peace with yourself and owning your power.

For those who have also had to fight for the freedom to explore, the act of finally doing so is a triumphant one. It is a testament to the fact that it is never too late to learn to like yourself, to celebrate your own unique preferences, and to find the quiet, unwavering strength that comes from living a life that is truly your own.

What will you choose today that is authentically yours?